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Why do people put allegations in relationship? | Relationship problem solving | Arguments and Fights.

Why do people put allegations in relationship? | Relationship problem solving | Arguments and Fights.

It is something which we all have in our lives whether hurled at us by others or thrown at others by us. It is like a curse given by the curser. Interestingly it plays an important role when the scenario is a Boy-Girl Relation.

Lets begin the thoughts that "should" surround:

Scenario

1) Suppose a boy blames his girl that she "flirted with boys" or a girl blames that he "misbehaved with her friends" in a certain discussion. Now, this gets vividly fixed in mind as an allegation probably for the rest of life even if the allegation is no more put on that person. And we will refer to it as a "Witch" in mind for the rest of our thoughts.

Allegations.

2) With every such event and every allegation hurled, the number of witches will keep on increasing knowing no ends which will turn into frustration.

Allegations.Allegations.
3) Now, with every subsequent argument or fight these Witches are gonna show up, come out to defend you in fight, leads to out of topic comments and make blunders. And the time comes when it crosses the limit, creates so much frustration and proves detrimental to the relation  itself.

Solution

We need to build our thought process in the following manner:

1) One thing is clear that something has to be done to reduce the number of witches in mind for the relation to survive.

Allegations.

2) Allegations are made generally in a fight or argument which remains relevant ONLY till that argument exists and it should END along with that argument.

Allegations.

3) Make sure not to let the witch come out unless there is a support which proves that the allegation still persists (say, the boy misbehaved in recent times or the girl flirts frequently). If there is no proof, it means that its a witch and the allegation sustains no more and hence needs to be deleted from the mind.

4) The most important belief is that the curse no more exists after the curser has revoked it in his/her own mind.

Allegations.

5) When the other person has no poison in his/her mind and do not feel the same blame now, it should be sufficient to delete the witch and never exclaim that you have blamed me for such and such thing.

 

Hope the above thoughts reduce chaos and fights not specifically in a Boy-Girl relation but in any relation whatsoever.

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